The World Cup deosn’t really interest me to be honest.
I’m in a prediction league for it at work and I’m currently bottom.
I found this article really interesting though (I also like the Guardian Opinion page by the way- I don’t know if that say’s anything about me but I prefer reading people’s opinions on the news than the news itself).
Dealing with our own failures – we see lots about that.
Re-framing our own failures when we subsequently have success is quite easy and cathartic.
I never really thought about how I react to other people’s failures previously.
Gareth Southgate’s reaction to the player who missed a key penalty was obviously framed by his own past experience but it shows that we can have a powerful and positive impact on others in the way we handle their failure.
Not rubbing it in their face or gloating and instead trying to show some empathy.
I bet that player still felt bad but perhaps found a little comfort in the show of support, and I bet Southgate felt better the next day knowing he had shown kindness on top of his team winning the penalty shoot out, a couple of seconds which cost him literally nothing but may have meant something to the other person.